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Many human activities began as social ones and were shared and with time got transformed into individual and personal ones. This happened especially with the media and technologies. Two examples: transportation, where cars (which are mostly used as a means of personal transportation) imposed themselves on other forms of travel; and the media, where TV, for instance, started being viewed collectively, went on to a TV set for every family, then to one for every single member of the family.

At the root of this there are obvious commercial reasons: the more a product becomes invidividual the more the sales. But this is not the only reason. Commercial needs are coemergent with psychic transformation – the one affects the other. The tendency toward individuality also develops in areas which were “traditionally planned” to be shared.

One of those is sexuality.  Masturbation is an evergreen activity, but it hasn’t always been accepted historically. It has been condemned for a long time, mostly through religious rulings, even scaring boys that it would make them blind. Even though masturbation is still not socially accepted in many parts of the world, especially for women, during the so-called sexual revolution of the 1960s and 1970s women established a more direct and aware relationship with their bodies, which included the right to masturbate withour guilt feelings.

But then, as anything which starts as counterculture and a spontaneous social movement, once it becomes somewhat accepted in the mainstream, it then becomes part of the economy, which makes products out of it.

Masturbation is expanding. Among the reasons is the AIDS emergency which produces suspicion compared to the “golden years” of free love; another one is the fast growth of singles and in general of short-term relationships.

Thus a big market is being opened, a market made of objects, porn, sex toys of the more variegate kinds, even remote-controlled and technologically complex sex machines, the Rolls Royce of sex toys. This phenomenon can be creative, fun, and liberating, but at the same time marks an anthropological transformation.

At first glance it seems that sex is becoming technological, but actually it is technology which in the process of digitalization of reality is assimilating human activities more and more. Social life is moving in a digital realm through social networks, the search of a partner and sexual meetings through the dating sites sites, and human biology is seen as a long list of DNA codes.

Becoming part of the big hotchpotch of technology, sex in turn is becoming “personal” and “at click range,” where pleasure, according to what technology offers, has to be immediate, personalized, with various options and, of course, efficient: a guaranteed and quick orgasm. A long wait for orgasm would be as annoying as waiting for a website with a slow Internet connection.

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Molte attività umane sono iniziate come sociali e condivise e nel tempo si sono trasformate in individuali e personali. Questo è avvenuto in particolare per i media e le tecnologie. Due esempi per tutti: il trasporto, dove l’automobile si è imposta sulle altre forme di trasporto ed è perlopiù utlizzata come forma di trasporto personale, e i media, dove ad esempio la televisione, iniziata in forma di visione collettiva, è passata ad una televisione per ogni famiglia e poi ad una per ogni componente del nucleo familiare.

Alla base di questo vi sono ovviamente ragioni commerciali per le quali più un prodotto diviene individuale maggiori sono le vendite, ma non è la sola ragione. Le necessità commerciali sono coemergenti con la trasformazione della psiche, l’una influenza l’altra. La tendenza verso l’individualità si sviluppa anche su aree che erano “tradizionalmente progettati” per la condivisione.

Una di queste è la sessualità. La masturbazione è un’attività sempreverde ma non è sempre stata accettata nella storia. Perlopiù tramite dettami religiosi, è stata condannata per lungo tempo, fino al punto di terrorizzare i ragazzi dicendo loro che sarebbero diventati ciechi. Anche se in molte parti del mondo la masturbazione non è tutt’ora accettata socialmente, in particolare per le donne, durante la cosiddetta rivoluzione sessuale degli anni ’60 e ’70 le donne hanno instaurato una relazione più diretta e consapevole con i loro corpi, includendo in questa il diritto a masturbarsi senza sensi di colpa.

Ma poi, come qualsiasi cosa che inizia come controcultura a partire da un movimento sociale spontaneo, nel momento in cui diventa un minimo accettata, entra come parte dell’economia e vengono creati dei prodotti al riguardo.

Ecco che si apre allora tutto un mercato fatto di oggetti, pornografia, sex toys delle specie più variegate, anche con il controllo remoto via Internet da parte del partner, e sex machines ingegneristicamente complesse, le Rolls Royce dei sex toys. Il fenomeno può risultare creativo, divertente e liberatorio, ma allo stesso tempo segna una trasformazione antropologica.

A prima vista sembra che il sesso stia diventando tecnologico, ma in realtà è la tecnologia che nel suo processo di digitalizzazione della realtà sta assorbendo sempre più  attività umane. La vita sociale si sposta in un ambito digitale con i social networks, la ricerca del partner e degli incontri sessuali sui siti appositi, e la biologia umana viene vista come una lunga lista di codici DNA.

Diventando parte del gran calderone della tecnologia, il sesso a sua volta si sta rendendo “personal” e “a portata di clic”, dove il piacere, secondo le offerte della tecnologia, dev’essere immediato, personalizzato, con opzioni variegate e naturalmente, efficiente: l’orgasmo deve essere garantito e veloce. Una lunga attesa per l’orgasmo diventerebbe fastidiosa quanto l’attesa di un sito web con una lenta connessione ad Internet.

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Cybervirgins

The tendency of spreading sex has been adopted by many magazines of large circulation and by other media such as TV and Internet news sites. Magazines with large circulation have a well-defined and advertised section of “tips, tricks and secrets” concerning sex. It reminds me of the time when I was publishing computer science books where the tricks of using the software were revealed.

Apart from the fact that communication about sex has become technicized, giving space for tricks and the advice of “experts,” perhaps for exorcising the intense and inner engaging nature of sexuality, it remains a fact that sexual messages are present in a pervasive way in every media. It seems that the world is like a global “Sex and the City” set, made of free and varied sexual meetings. If this can be true in some areas of the world, the planetary diffusion of sexual messages culturally does not find much similarity worldwide. The reality is that at least two-thirds of the world lives in a rather restrictive, traditional, and sometimes even very repressive culture regarding sex.

The massive process of worldwide urbanization caused the appearance of a growing number of singles not only in the West but even in every emerging country, especially in Asia and the Middle East. In Shanghai, Delhi, Seoul, Bangkok, Dubai, Manila or Jakarta, the growing class of office employees is formed mainly of women, connected to the Internet.

They often live alone or with female roommates, are members of Internet social networks and dating sites, like Western women. During breaks at work they chat and a growing percentage connects to the Net from home also. This seems to be the lifestyle of many women in the West, but there is a fundamental difference: they live in a traditional society as far as sexual roles are concerned. Even though some countries, like Thailand, are well-known for their hot night life, the majority of people follow very traditional behavior and lifestyles.

As a contrast to their upbringing, a culture without filters can sneak through their computer screen (which has almost nothing to do with tradition) of virtual meetings, erotic chats and porno sites, sometimes extreme ones. The ease of getting in contact with anyone through dating sites is a great difference between ordinary reality and what one lives online on the screen. The gap between traditional culture and the online becomes more and more wide because the culture of a whole country evolves more slowly compared to the speed of technological and online transformation. A great dichotomy is being created between the way one should be and appear in a certain manner according to the requirements of traditional culture and what the Net offers.

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Porn 2.0

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The liberation to be internally free in having sex the way we feel like or to be free not to have it doesn’t come by merely acting out or by repressing the actual act, but by the level of awareness that we are willing to give our sexual needs, be them indulgence or asceticism.

With the pervasivity of porn we got desensitized towards sexual images and their relationship with our soul.  In this overwhelming input towards sex in society, a certain kind of independent porn could paradoxically reveal the vulnerable, human side and the connection with introspection.
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La libertà interiore di fare sesso nel modo che vogliamo, oppure di non farlo, non dipende dalla semplice espressione o repressione dell’atto sessuale in sé, ma dal livello di consapevolezza che desideriamo portare ai nostri bisogni sessuali, siano essi l’indulgenza o l’ascetismo.

Con il dilagare della pornografia ci siamo assuefatti alle immagini sessuali e al loro rapporto con la nostra anima. In mezzo a questo sovraccarico di input sessuali nella società, un certo genere di pornografia indipendente potrebbe paradossalmente rivelare un lato umano e vulnerabile, e un legame con l’introspezione.

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Sex black hole

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In our present-day society, one of the most fast growing trends is the transmission of sexual imagery and sexual messages. Opinions, apart, it's just a fact.

We pretend that teenagers don't act out the sexual messages they receive or, if they do, we expect that they will be responsible and safe. Yeah, sure. We educate them in technology, we train them in sports and we prepare them to enter the highly competitive information society. However, when it has to do with sex, the most powerful energy that a teen faces, we leave the whole responsibility to them, resulting in earlier pregnancies and HIV infections.
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Nella società contemporanea, una delle tendenza in maggior espansione è la trasmissione di immagini e messaggi sessuali. Opinioni a parte, è un dato di fatto e una realtà con cui fare i conti.

Facciamo finta che gli adolescenti non mettano in pratica i messaggi sessuali che ricevono o, se lo fanno, che siano prudenti e responsabili. Come no… li istruiamo sulla tecnologia, li alleniamo nello sport e li prepariamo a una società delle informazioni altamente competitiva, ma quando si tratta del sesso, l’energia più potente che gli adolescenti devono gestire, lasciamo a loro ogni responsabilità, con il risultato di gravidanze precoci ed infezioni da HIV.
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Superego orgasm 2.0

<h1><a xhref="http://www.indranet.org/?attachment_id=56">Orgasm</a></h1>There are many good reasons for saying that orgasms are good. They feel good. When a person has an orgasm with a partner, they trust the partner enough to release their control for a while and be taken over by an overwhelming energy.

Orgasms make us vulnerable; they show our intensity and we can let the other hear our deepest screams of pleasure. As a man, it’s beautiful to see and feel the shakti energy of a woman as she has an orgasm. Orgasms trigger the release of many hormones, among them oxytocin that induces feelings of love and bonding. They are good for health and circulation; they can start in the body but expands to the soul, or vice versa, representing a holistic experience for the person. Everybody could list more benefits for themselves.

But… Having “ordinary” orgasms seems not to be enough anymore. Clitoral orgasm is just for beginners. G-spot orgasm, trigasm, multiple orgasms and squirting are all musts now for a woman. Men usually don’t have any problem reaching an orgasm so the frontier for them is to become multi-orgasmic; having a 30-minute orgasm or reaching a prostate orgasm. Oh yes and than orgasms should of course be simultaneous.

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Eros and the sexualization of society

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Eros was the ancient Greek God of lust and desire. Eros is an essential part of the human experiences that has been redirected and often repressed by religions and societies. Our present-day society is probably more permeated by sexual messages than any other ages in our history and the trend is just on the rise, but Eros is yawning.

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Eros è il Dio greco della lussuria e del desiderio. Eros è una parte essenziale dell'esperienza umana che è stata deviata e spesso repressa dalle religioni e dalle società. La società dei nostri giorni probabilmente è permeata da messaggi sessuali come nessun'altra epoca nella storia e la tendenza è in espansione, ma Eros… sbadiglia.

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